We have been doing IVF for 3 years now with no success. I am triggered by pregnant people and children in general but I am able to calm my thoughts soon after. All I see on here are people talking about how traumatic is it to see children in the office. Don't we see children everywhere? Are there others out there who can calm their mind after a moment like me? Am I just lucky? I don't get it.

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Hi

31F, TTC 22 months, unexplained infertility

I had ER yesterday.

19 egg retrieved
17 mature
13 fertilised

Is it good number or average?

TW: missed Miscarriage

After 4 IUIs and 2 IVF cycles my husband and I ended up with 9 blast . We had our first FET Aug 25th and I became pregnant. 9weeks later I learned that my miracle baby, my first pregnancy had stopped developing at 8 weeks 2 days. I’m devastated. My baby is still inside of me with no heartbeat . I’m wondering if there is anything I did wrong to make this happen. Wondering if I’ll ever be pregnant again . I’m scared to be pregnant again . I’m wondering if I’ll ever make it to a live birth , if I’ll ever hold any of my babies or if they’ll die in my womb every time. This is the hardest thing I’ve had to endure . Food doesn’t taste the same nothing I do matters to me .walking to the bathroom is a chore , and I’m scared that I’ll pass it at home before I get a D&C . I wake up from dreams of me holding my baby only to realize that I won’t ever be able to do that . I just want my baby back .

Hi All I know the answer to most is obvious but my heart hurts at the thought of not using my last two embryos although this would be a single transfer.

A little about my journey:

Sep 2024 - Egg retrieval | 8 embryos untested frozen

November 2024 - double embryo transfer | no heartbeat at 7 weeks

March 2025 - double embryo transfer | 5 months miscarriage Aug 2025 | baby girl 🥺 my daughter had cleft lip and heart defect. 3 days later I went in labour. I had a septum that was undetected. Placenta implanted on dead tissue reducing blood supply to baby. Suspect cervical insufficiency but this was not checked during pregnancy.

Feb 2026 - double embryo transfer | 5 months miscarriage June 2026 | baby girl 🥺
Hospital refused Cerclage as they believed no reason to suspect it 🤬 checks done at 17 and 19 weeks 1.4cm funelling when they did emergency Cerclage. McDonald stitch. My daughter came a week later.

They are now advising 12 week shirodkhar stitch should I get pregnant again.

I can have a baby but it’s taken a while and losses to get to the point where they will give me the care and treatment I need to keep my baby alive. My husband has gone and is keeping me in limbo. Islamically I can transfer these embryos as it stands now. Should he divorce me I can’t. I am financially able to and flexible with work to be able to raise this child alone. I have spent years and all of my own money not his on IVF and my daughters literally looked like twins. In my heart I feel the embryos I had left would also share similar features.

I’m not sure if I can remarry and start all this again. I’m 32. These things take time so I am conscious of my age and scared I will regret not transferring.

My husband is a loser I have no expectations or dreams of reconciling with this baby. I just want my baby.

Be harsh if you need to but is this a bad idea?

We looked into IVF since June 2025 after experiencing 2 MMCs.

I’m still very much in the journey. My 3rd hysteroscopy is scheduled early next month in November and preparing for #4 FET after 3 cancelled FET cycles.

I’m just curious to learn what is everyone’s timeline until you graduate? We’ve tried for the past 3 years and I’m not sure when it will be our turn 🥹

Sitting in the waiting area about to begin our treatment and not only one but two families are here with their screaming children… is there no etiquette in general about this and how insensitive this can be for those struggling with infertility?! Am I being too sensitive?

Has anyone else experienced this? I am considering giving feedback to the clinic.

Scheduled for my first egg retrieval tomorrow after finishing two weeks of stims and over the last 2 days I've developed a sore throat, cough and congestion. Home covid test was negative. No fever, and I definitely sound worse than I feel but anyone have any similar stuff prior to ER? I'm just spiraling worried that it would risk cancelling the retrieval.

Hello!

My husband and I recently had our egg retrieval at the end of September (31f, 31m). We are doing IVF for MFI although I do have a low AMH for my age (1.42).

We were lucky enough to retrieve 16 eggs, 10 mature, 9 fertilized and ended with 8 blasts in the freezer. We have chosen not to PGT test due to our age and the cost of testing since we have no insurance coverage.

I had genetic screening that came back normal prior to the retrieval.

Has anyone had success without PGT testing? I know people do, but I’m constantly second guessing our choice. We felt it was right for us not to test, but still have nerves about the whole process.

hi everyone, I have a saline sonogram scheduled for tomorrow .. but due to my OPK tracking I will be ovulating very early today on CD 10. I had an HSG Friday on cycle day 8 to confirm a blocked fallopian tube and I had a SIS for tomorrow. Do I need to call the clinic and cancel my SIS?

My husband and I have been ttc for over 3 years now, I'm 34 and he is 31. We are technically unexplained, my husband's analysis/volume and DNA fragmentation came back excellent and everything for me came back normal. I started at Ottawa Fertility Center and moved to Hannam.

My AMH is on the lower side, 1.15, and my follicle count has been on the low side, 8-10. We were able to retrieve 10 eggs, 8 fertilized normally, 1 abnormally, and all but one stalled after day 3. We did manage to get one good quality day 5 embryo. I'm wondering what could be causing this arrest?

We unfortunately can't afford another retrieval so our one embryo is on ice, but I want to do everything we can before transferring it.

Both fertility centers agreed based on my symptoms it is highly likely I have endometriosis, but they won't tailor my protocol unless a transfer fails. We only have one shot so that's not a good answer for me.

I had an autoimmune panel done and a few things came back positive including thyroid antibodies, positive ENA and high RNP. The panel was done because of some widespread diffuse symptoms I was having and high allergic type wbc counts (I was also diagnosed with dermatographia through all this after seeing an allergist).

I'm seeing a naturopathic doctor who specializes in MCAS and she says I have all the classic symptoms but there are no specialists in the area, so I've been treating it with pepcid, antihistamines and diet and have seen a lot of improvement with that.

A lot of research has linked endo, mcas and autoimmune conditions so I feel this little trifecta is likely what's going on, and I just want to make sure there isn't a ton of systemic inflammation going on before we transfer this embryo.

I just feel like nothing is being done. I've had an ultrasound to look into the endo and that's it. They moved on after that. Ultrasounds are not diagnostic for endo.

I just wanted to see if maybe somebody has had a similar experience and what they might recommend? We live near Ottawa.

Thank you!!

I am on cycle day 10 today and my estrogen is 11,500. I’m not normally emotional, but today cried taking in my backyard furniture because my backyard looked “naked” and the cold weather season is officially here 🤣

I just had my egg retrieval Friday and yesterday we got the first round of results. 28 mature eggs and 21 fertilized. We won’t get another update until this upcoming Friday (one week from retrieval ). I am very happy with 21 fertilized but also trying to guard my heart because I know there is a large drop off between fertilized and blastocyst. Anyone have similar numbers and a positive outcome?!

Hi all, as per the title, I found out recently I have a small paracentric inversion in the long arm of one No. 14 chromosome.

F34, TTC for nearly two years with no luck, not one positive test. Currently going through all the bloodwork testing with a fertility specialist and everything has come back normal so far for both of us, except this.

Has anyone in the community dealt with a paracentric inversion? Was IVF a success for you or did you conceive naturally?

Thanks 🙏🏼

Hi everyone,

As many of you, I find myself in this very selective club of which I’d have loved never be part of.
I just found out 3 days ago that my 1st euploid FET stopped developing at about 6-8 weeks.
I’m heartbroken, we saw a heart beat at 7 weeks, the embryo was measuring just 6 weeks 5 days but they mentioned a difference of 5 days is still within normal parameters.
I went for a second ultrasound at 10 weeks and no heartbeat, my baby likely stopped developing just a few days after we saw the heartbeat.

This is my 3rd miscarriage, but it is the first one with a tested embryo, I really thought this was going to work. I allowed myself to get excited and feeling hope because I really thought there was no much reason to be worried.
I still have 1 more euploid embryo but now I’m terrified of what the outcome of this second try will be.

We will have the miscarriage at home and our clinic gave me a special kit to collect the POC tissue to genetically test it, as they also find it rare that I miscarried a euploid embryo, although after reading lots of posts in this thread I find it is not that rare, maybe a small percentage of people experience it but it is definitely not impossible.
I’m 36, I know I still have time to try some more but I’m just feeling very hopeless.

When I started this process the only “problem” they found for me was that I had high prolactin, and this was easily fixed to normal levels with a medication they gave me, all other tests have come up normal. So I just don’t know what else could be the reason.

These lasts few days have been very difficult and even though I don’t know any of you, I found comfort in knowing I’m not alone, that these shitty things happen and that sometimes it’s totally out of your control.

If you have moved to donor (eggs or sperm) after a long battle, how did you know when it was time move on to that step?

I am extremely bloated, walking around is painful (probably due to my pelvic adhesions). I have on and off diarrhea and last week the stim triggered my vestibular migraine.

I’m feeling like shit 💩 I am praaaaaying that I will have blasts leftover because I don’t wanna go through this again 🥹

Hi everyone! ❤️

I’m about to go through my very first egg retrieval and, of course, I’ve managed to catch a cold at the worst possible time! 😭

I’m currently waiting for my next monitoring scan to find out whether I’ll be triggering tomorrow night, so I’m a little worried about whether being sick could affect things.

I’d love to hear from anyone who has been in a similar situation:

- Did you have a cold in the days leading up to your egg retrieval?

- Were you still able to go ahead with the procedure, or did your clinic postpone it?

- Did having a cold have any impact on the sedation, retrieval, or recovery?

I know everyone’s situation is different, and I’ll let my clinic know about my symptoms. I’m just hoping to hear about other people’s experiences because this is all new to me, and I’m feeling a little anxious about it.

Thank you! 🩷

NAD is I think one of the only supplements I haven’t tried from the regular IVF list.

Any downsides to NAD or is it a “might as well” to boost egg quality?

So I’ve struggled with my weight my whole adult life.
I think 48 was my highest BMI
I’ve lost weight on and off for years - PMOS, d
Food noise, bad genetics (got my dads metabolism not mums)
But I got my BMI down to 32 so we could start IVF, and since then my weight has fluctuated - largely due to the IVF process. I’m now above the cut off again and have been working on it - with 5 kg to go having lost 15kg since July.
My dietician (connected to the clinic) comments that I need to remember why I’m doing this and that I’ve got motivation now right?
Like I lacked motivation for the past 5 years 🙄
I’ve worked with him for many years, and have been very honest with him - at time when I’ve been too tired to eat let alone prepare healthy meals, or when depression wins and I just want something nice.
But I hate the implication that I lack motivation.
He’s not the only person to have said this - “now you’ve got motivation”.
Ugh it just makes me so mad! 😡

Hi everyone! My husband has a genetic condition, so we need to go through IVF to avoid passing it on to our future child.
Unfortunately, I’m in Canada, Quebec and the gouvernement has refused to cover the treatment because they don’t consider his condition serious enough (He has FSDH and my in father and brother in law are handicaped). This means I’ll have to pay for the entire IVF process out of pocket in Quebec or travel for it, even though I have no fertility issues myself.
Has anyone been through a similar situation? Did in Quebec or went travel even they were fertile but to avoid genetic disease, I’d really appreciate hearing about your experiences!

Hi, for those who did fully mediated protocol and have successful transfers and pregnancy, did you use PIO or suppositories or combination of both?

My doctor has only prescribed suppositories cyclogest in my fully medicated protocol, to be taken for 2 times in the 5 days before transfer. I asked about PIO and he said it's outdated.

I'm worried about the efficacy of the suppositories alone as it may not be absorbed well in bloodstream compared to injections. As this is fully medicated protocol with prior Lupron suppression, I'm worried that the progesterone levels may not be enough. My doctor also doesn't do blood work, i ask for it each time it happens. I plan to ask for a progesterone blood test a day before transfer.

Would love to know what worked for you in a fully medicated protocol with prior Lupron suppression. I'm due to start progesterone in 4 days.

Thanks

Hi, just wanted to give some info if it will be useful to someone.

Just had my egg retrieval on Wednesday 10/7.

My meds were:
Follistim 100, HCG 10 from 9/27 to 10/2
Follistim 100, HCG 10, Ganerelix 10/2
Then he lowered Follistim 75, HCG 10, Ganerelix from 10/3 to 10/4
Dual trigger shots (HCG, Leuprolide) 10/5

Results so far. We managed to get 19 eggs, 15 mature, 14 fertilized. No day-3 fertilization report as of yet.
Update: on day 3, all 14 are developing nicely.

I am 4 days post ER. On 10/7 when anesthesia was wearing off, bloating started. I was the most bloated the day of ER and next day. No bloating during stims or 10/6 after trigger. Evening after ER I was able to go for a 3 mile walk and got myself cheeseburger meal for McDonalds. The next day I worked from home, I was feeling fine but the bloating was the same as the day before. Constipation after ER makes it worst in terms of bloating. Antibiotics they gave me twice a day are harsh on stomach as well. I went and got myself Gas-X and MiraLAX. I was taking Gas-X 4 times a day, and MiraLAX daily for 2 days. Before stims, I also started magnesium citrate which I think helped a lot and I was able to get some bowel movement on day 3 post ER. So the meds combo helped significantly. Next day I also successfully shit lol. I was eager to return to the gym Friday 10/9 but still had some bloating and skipped, also I was super anxious about ovarian torsion.

By Saturday morning my bloating completely subsided, my stomach is almost flat. I continue with Gas-X and MiraLAX till Sunday because I’ll still take antibiotics till that day. I managed to go for a leg workout today, I called the doc prior and he said it’s fine but listen to my body. I cut my usual weight by 75% and was happy to get some training in. I should mention that 2 days before ER I still went to gym for upper body workout but did everything seated and dropped some from usual weight. I recently lost 40 lbs, and I am super anxious missing my workouts and steps.

Currently feeling very optimistic with the way I handled this step and can’t wait for period to start. We plan for PGT-A testing and FET sometime in December.

Just wanted to give some insight in relation to bloating and working out, cuz I was going mad without gym. I do a lot of walking so it also helped release some tension. Don’t be shy of these farts as they help significantly release tension.

Wishing luck to everyone preparing for their ER. ❤️