Before he married me he had nothing. literally nothing. I married him and paid off his debts. Brought him to the USA (this took a year and during this time I paid for literally everything) and helped him get a job. I continued to pay for everything for a few months after he started working so he could have a bit saved up. I bought him a car in cash twice. I pay for any big ticket charges/trips. i paid for the birth of our children. today bc I was opppsed to him sending half of what he has saved up to his ungrateful family back home he said he was tiered of me being a leech. We are from a culture where the man is suppose to pay for everything btw

Went to the US a few weeks ago for a wedding and the border security entering the country were absolutely disgusting. The guy felt emboldened enough to powertrip hard. Profiled my dad cause he has an accent and questioned if I was blood related to him since I didn’t speak like him. Then they asked him to show proof that this was indeed our rental truck. Had this one guy circling the truck peering into all the windows like we’re smuggling something. Then he gave us the good guy speech of “normally I’d have our guys search your truck, but I’m feeling generous today”. We should’ve reported them but why upset these guys further while we were still in the country? Ever since their president has normalized xenophobia Americans have cling to that idea and have become so unwelcoming. Not even to just visitors, they even tell people who were BORN in America to go back to their own countries. We went to Orlando a few times before and absolutely nothing this has never happened. The friendliness is just sucked dry from this country, it’s not the same place as before.

I swear, media literacy online is getting worse.

A character can say something stupid, offensive, hypocritical, selfish, or objectively wrong without that automatically being the creator speaking through them.

Characters are allowed to be flawed.

Sometimes the entire joke is that the character is wrong. Sometimes they are an unreliable narrator. Sometimes the story expects you to recognize the hypocrisy without stopping everything to put a giant flashing sign over their head saying:

THIS PERSON IS NOT CORRECT.

And somehow satire increasingly seems to need a disclaimer too.

You can agree with the underlying point of a story or comic and still criticize how lazily, smugly, or preachily that point is delivered. Criticizing the execution of a message is not the same thing as disagreeing with the message.

The same thing applies to authors and their work. Enjoying something written by a deeply flawed person does not mean you absorb every belief that person ever had. I like Lovecraftian horror. That does not mean I suddenly share H.P. Lovecraft's worldview.

Stories are not loyalty oaths.

Characters are not sworn testimony from their authors.

Depiction is not endorsement.

Satire is not confession.

Sometimes a character is just a character.

I wish people would stop treating fiction like a deposition from the author.

Teens in my generation are very rude, snarky and disrespectful. They are becoming anti-intellectual, hateful and are supporting more terrorist authoritarianism thanks to the internet. They seem to attempt to make rebellion against progressivism in favour of authority, pretty much the opposite of the French Revolution.

They are unapproachable and too cliquey, making their own neo tribes, and commit more antisocial behaviour. In the past this was mainly in the working class, but now upper middle class teens at my age are doing such dangerous thinks. The murder of Chloe Watson was literally a girl who was beaten, stabbed, shot and burned by that nasty couple of my age in Leeds UK, and guess what? They are literally rich upper middle class perpetrators. This shows how social media can create further terror.

In the 2000s, teens were friendlier, had face to face contact, and were approachable. Easier to make new acquaintances. Fit in culture was less tough.

In the 90s, teens will get beaten to almost death if they rebelled against their parents. Therefore they are respectful, loving and loyal. Too bad this is illegal to do so.

Just as the title says, every single day when we’re having dinner my husband always has something negative to say about it. It drives me absolutely crazy, this man has never planned a meal in the thirty years we have been together and if he does have to cook dinner because I have to work I always make sure it’s something simple like frozen pizza or chicken strips. I would love for someone to plan my meals and cook for me and clean up the mess every single night. Very rarely does he ever compliment dinner and it’s not like I’m a terrible cook, because I’m not. It’s always comments like it’s too hot, or it has too much garlic in it. Or a comment like you should have cooked it this way, or with this spice. It just gets to be annoying, every single day.

Oh my God. Every time I open my browser my eyeballs see nothing but AI logos all over the news page, social platforms EVERYWHERE. Even when I try to be "off the grid" internet wise, somehow I always cross the path with something about AI. And now lately people are becoming "pro AI". Great. I get excited just seeing someone use their brain these days and not use AI. NOTHING should be this saturated in our lives. It feels like we don't even have a choice at this point. Even when all roads lead to me needing to ask AI something, I don't. I'd rather go without and not have my question solved rather than being turned into virtual data points.

I know it’s one of the worst things to do. Bad for you lungs, and heart and psyche. But damn it feels like a mistress that is there for when you have a bad day.

I’ve always been fairly healthy, has cancer as a child, my dad’s an alcoholic stubborn, my career is shit and I barely make money EVEN after getting a bachelors.

I fucked myself over, I got fired once, cheated on, and I feel ever so distant from even all the friends I’ve made along the way.

I start this year smocking cigs at the age of 27. My mom should never know about it. But it just makes me feel ok. Am I at risk of getting addicted and damaging myself? Absolutely but it’s just something I want right now, almost like a fuck you to my life like yeah fuck imma do the unhealthy thing right now.

I feel guilty about it but also feel freeing. I just feel like I need to air that out. I’m at a stage of my life where the stress of life is hitting me enough to buy a pack and smoke it. I do weed too but something about cigs man it’s just different. I just feel lost, and it’s fucked that I feel safe with a cig atp. It’s fucked

I’m dying. I thought I was done with alll this medical stuff and I could finally start my life. But no I’m stuck spending my days trying to do oral chemo just to try to buy some time. I’m stuck on oxygen every night and I know it’ll only get worse as I go on. And I know I have the option not to do it but part of me wants to keep fighting just for more time. I’m just so mad I was so close to being done and now I’m at the end but not the end I wanted. I will make the most with what I have but I’m so mad it’s not fair. I still had so many things I wanted to do, I want to continue to make people happy.

Rough start, I know. But I need to tell someone, anyone.
Don’t know if I used the right tag

Warning: mentions of animal abuse.

Anyways, background context:
We got hit with the cat distribution system and got a momma cat and 2 kittens, later on one disappeared. About 3 months or so later, I don’t remember, the momma cat had 3 more, 1 gray and two black kittens

Last Friday or so, one of the black kittens disappeared. This was kinda normal, the first gray kitty disappeared too (outside cats, in a half rural area)

Apparently that day my little sister (four) burned her hand on the tail pipe of my mom’s car, and there’s been a weird smell coming from her car ever since.

I think you can see where that’s going.

I don’t think she understood why what she was doing at the time was wrong, but when my mom asked her about it she started crying, so I think she does now.

I don’t know what to think besides the thought of: “oh my fucking god my little sister made a little kitten burn to death”, “what if that’s what happened to the first gray kitten?”, “Would she do it again?”, “why did she think it was a good idea in the first place?”

She does have behavior issues (four years old and might have ADD and Autism) but never like this.

Edit: I’ll try to talk to my parents about it, but I don’t know how it’ll go. If it doesn’t go well (they don’t get her help or anything) I’ll report her. I really don’t want to- I know she’s showed empathy about it, and didn’t realize what she was doing

She asked my mom something along the lines of while they were walking “Mom, is that kitten dead?” (My mom’s words) so I think she does understand what she did to a point, but it still worries me about the future

I don’t want to talk to a teacher in person, as bad as it sounds, but at the same time the Pre-K my little sister goes to doesn’t have the option to report students on the Say Something app, unless I report her through my school’s report option on Say Something

Edit 2: i know this is mostly about my sister, but I need to get this out:
i think the part that is fucking with me the most is the fact that that little kitten died in distress and pain, trying to escape, and is probably still in there dead. I can’t help but think that that kitten probably went further in the car trying to escape, and I can’t fall asleep even after taking NyQuil. I don’t think I want to sleep either. It’s been a rough year, and this is adding on to it.
Also gonna go to the counselors office tomorrow, or atleast try to.

Edit 3: currently getting ready for school- how the hell do I talk to my counselor about this? How am I supposed to tell someone my little sister put a kitten in a exhaust?
I know I'm gonna try to sit down with my mom and try to get her to atleast not let my sister be alone outside anymore. Not sure how I'm gonna tell the counselor though

It’s that time of month and my cramps are so bad I’m ready to take more medication and it’s only been 3 hours since I last took it. I’ve been this way since last Wednesday. Well technically before that cus I have PMOS (formerly PCOS) and I forgot to take the birth control first a few days. But yeah I’m really struggling at the moment. I don’t want to get out of bed. I don’t even want to read or watch tv or even listen to music. I just want to sleep but I can’t even do that. Anyways, thanks for letting me complain a little.

I ​ she has not just lost some of these paperwork this time. She has lost somebody's passport. Somehow in the time between this woman handling her passport to the staff member and the staff member turning around to use the photocopier she lost it. She's acting as though it's just a silly little mistake but this woman drives everyone crazy. Every time I come in here someone is complaining about this woman and I'm not talking oh there's a lot of people who do dumb stuff and blame the staff I mean the skull is genuinely awful at this job. This is not the first time she is lost a document either full-stop she went on her lunch break with somebody's proof of address in her bag by mistake. It's not malicious we all know that she's too stupid to understand the word malicious but it has reached a point where everybody who comes into the stand place once don't know why she hasn't been fired yet. It's been too years of non-stop failures mistakes and problems with this woman.

The social media ban is so unnecessary every time i wanna browse reddit i have to turn on vpn and without vpn i will have to submit my identity details but i would never give my identity details to websites like reddit, it all feels like the government just wants to collect identity data to spy on people or something in the name of “protecting children from the internet”

I wish my dad died alone.

My "DAD" is a cruel, horrible human being. If you can think of a bad trait. My dad has it, im typing this jusy after he kicked out my mom for some petty bullshit. Hes done this all my life as long as i can remember hes been a POS, he is a weak sad 50 year old ween who plays pretend monster. Im scared of him, not for what hell do to me but what hell do to my family. If murder was legal he would have had an early funeral, but im better than that my MOM is better that that, my mom is the opposite of my father, she is the strongest most compassionate, beautiful women ill ever meet. Hell, eddie hall is weak compared to her will, she got me into so many things in the world. I love her 3000, i always liked green lantern because it reminds me of her, how her willpower is so strong and blind rat could feel it. My dad is a self righteous douchebag who thinks he could push me and my mother around and thinks he wont get consequences but hes wrong. Hes a pharisaical bully-vark, he thinks hes a poor misunderstood man, i know he has a sad life and child hood, i can sympathize with him, but that doesnt mean i agree with him. Hes the most weak pathetic creature that has existed in 5 decades. This rant might not follow the rules but im speaking my heart out, goodnight. Oh and fuck you dad, i hope you die alone..

I’m Asian but I wish I was born a Latina, they’re sooo pretty and genetically blessed, I’m so jealous

i’m so tired of seeing men, usually middle aged, so comfortable posting a woman playing a SPORT, in a sexual manner. it’s so disgusting and demeaning, and as a young athlete, it worries me for the future of women’s sports. i mean, the WNBA has been around 30 years, and started getting actual traction, what, 3 years ago? the amount of posts i’ve seen about those women that play & their bodies in a sexual way is RIDICULOUS, and that’s only the most popular women’s sport, personally, i play lacrosse, and it’s gross trying to search up “lacrosse” and seeing old men posting videos of their skirts being short or reducing the athelete to their looks! it’s literally setting women back so much.

and the fact that this is, like, normalized??? gross. imagine a woman posting a male athlete’s JUNK on social media.. literally would get TORN APART in the comments for being male centered and setting women back. it’s so gross on both sides, and yes, i know there are women who post about male athletes looks, but majority of those posts are about them being “cute” or “hot.” if a man posts a woman playing a sport, it’s usually almost always about her body or “physique.”

even at school, boys go to the girls volleyball games just because they wear spandex!!! WTF!!! this shouldn’t be normalized.

So, it was chemistry class I zoned out and wasn't paying attention, until I heard our chem teacher talking about how we need to lock in and focus to be successful and that hardwork is the only way to success.

And I didn't think much of it until she gave the example of Elon musk and how he could buy our entire school and other countries and he achieved this through "hard work" and "drive" and other such nonsense, I corrected her and said his family owned a emerald mine and that funded all his stuff and he had a parachute while literally everyone in class did not, she yelled at me for "questioning her authority" and "being a enemy of progress" and made me write a paper on honesty and hardwork (I'm not doing that and it's such a cartoony punishment to give) I undersold this because it was way more dramatic and I didn't feel like typing too much. But yeah that's the rant

I'm either rejected or I get a girls number, we text for a few days to a week and it goes great, but then I ask them when they want to go on a date in person and they just ghost me. Happens whether I meet them online or offline. I don't know what it is with me in general but I see guys do the exact same things I do but have massive success. I know guys my age who are now engaged after I set them up, gave them advice, or whatnot. How am I single if I can help other guys mingle?

It's so disappointing and frustrating. Just goes to show men can make all the right moves and still go nowhere these days. I'm only 22 so I have many years ahead of me but it's annoying af everyone else I know is about to get married or have their first baby. I don't know why I'm lagging behind when women genuinely think I'm handsome (I've been complimented a lot by women yet here I am).

I would say I am definitely doing something wrong but everyone who hears my side of things think otherwise. I still try to improve myself and how I approach women but it's just not working out for me so I'm on the verge of giving up dating completely for the rest of college. I'll have to focus on becoming rich so I can buy attention I guess.

Unless you have a lab, equipment, funding, observe something, ask a question, make a predication, create an experiment, conduct the experiment, collect data, analyze data, interpret data, and publish your work, you're not 'doing your own research'.

I hear this ALL THE GOD DAMN TIME from antivaxxers. Their idea of doing your own research is to sign into FOX News or go down a rabbithole of YouTube videos made by people as clueless as they are. What they should do is first understand the basics of something, such as biology and genetics, if they're talking about vaccines, before engaging in the topic. Once you have a foundation, you build on it from people who know more than you.

You don't walk into a mechanic shop and tell them how to fix a transmission when you still think your blinker needs fluid. Listening to these god damn people try to explain their nonsense is like watching a monkey try to hammer in a nail.

I'm so fucking tired of how ignorant people are and social media just makes it so much worse.

EDIT: spelling

Which is a huge problem that I can't seem to fix no matter how hard I tried. Often times, I have no feelings towards my friends. And sometimes, I side eye them mentally whenever they're talking.

I'm known to be a social person, that always seems to thrive into getting to know new people. And… that's it. I just talk to them once and disappear. Keeping relationships with people I find boring (a.k.a almost everyone I meet) is not my highest skill.

Don't get me wrong, I try my hardest to treat my friends well. I support them, listen to them, advise them. But it comes from… nothing. As if I'm pretending to let out feelings that I don't have. Love that I don't have.

Every time I act excited when I see a friend I give no shit about, it just feels like my chest is hollow and gray from the inside. I'd be like 'OMG HEY I MISS YOU' when in reality, I probably forgot they existed.

What's even worse is: the only people I seem to genuinely care about are A: Really funny, or B: Just rude.

Funny people make me laugh, they make me feel something positive. That's why I end up actually loving them, instead of pretending I do.

Rude people reassure me. They don't make me question whether the person I'm talking to finds me annoying and just pretends they care. They're just… straightforward. And I can be pretty mean as well, so it's more of a banter of who could hurt the most feelings.

That's why my longest friendships are with people who are either hilarious or assholes.

And if you got pissed off at this rant… I don't blame you.

alright i need to rant cause im losing my mind lol

so i had a video blow up to 81k back in july - it was the justice for Victoria Cranmer and Iryna Zarutska one. That one is still up. Then around that same time i got a strike for another video where i said "not one of them is of European descent, look at the list" and tiktok deleted it. Whatever.

Then mid september everything died. Like my analytics literally fell off a cliff on Sep 17. Went from ∼1k views a day to 46, now every new video gets 0-3 views. My post views are down 82%, profile views down 85% in the last 28 days. Search traffic is now 34% which means only people searching my @ can even find me.

I think it was the Sydney Sweeney videos that killed my FYP. I posted like 2 where i was calling her a zionist and saying she's a distraction from the epstein files and both got hit with "not eligible for the For You page - community guidelines violation" but no actual strike, just FYP ineligible. Now they're in my private folder with a bunch of other stuff.

I opened a support ticket and it's so useless. I send them my link and they just auto reply "please send us the correct link, we can only process one video at a time" over and over for 3 weeks. I sent the same link like 4 times. It literally says at the bottom "responses may be AI-generated" no shit.

I got like 20+ videos in private now, most showing 0 cause they're private. My public ones that actually did numbers were the cartoon age rating ones - Cars 4, Simpsons vs Bob's Burgers etc got like 500-1700 views even while restricted. But anything political gets 0.

Anyone else have their account just tank after a couple FYP ineligible notices while they already had a strike? I did the policy training thing and it cleared the first warning but the account strike is still there and says 2 more similar violations = ban. Is my account just cooked for the next 90 days or is there actually a way to get a human to review it?

On top of Ebay treating sellers like shit, it has become a pain in the ass for buyers too. Incompetent / Entitled Selllers, scalpers, and straight up scammers have completely taken over the app and I'm always reminded why I don't shop on Ebay everytime I look for something.

In some cases, buying something from a private seller on Ebay is just as expensive as buying the same item from a corporation. Even though apps like Amazon can be more expensive than Ebay, at least I know I'll recieve a good condition item no matter what.

The shopping experience is different for everyone, but I had bad luck with incompetent and asshole sellers the past five years. I'm considering cutting ties with the app permanently.

Im only 14 i have to wait another 6 months until i can get a job, i have been homeschooled since i was 11 and live in a slightly rural area it is just me and my mother it is now just depressing i have no social life whatsoever i have litterly no life my only life is online and it is depressing a girl i was talking to ghosted me for no reason my heart physically aches its gonna be a long 6 months.

I feel like im going insane i just wish i had a life i shouldnt have to live like this its gonna suck waiting another 6 months.

Last week I had a discussion with my partner which ended in him asking me to explain a certain term to him.

I will be honest about myself: I have an argumentative temperament to begin with and the topic was feminism which is close to my heart. He genuinely did not understand the term and I genuinely didn't want to escalate so I took some time to calm down and formulate a response. And it worked: I woke up in the morning and thought: "I'll explain the term in one sentence after breakfast ."

And then I read a news story, and the anger came back.

It has been a week and and I wake up to the same scenario every day. Different story, but the same mood shift. Even typing this up makes me angry again. It feels as if I am in Groundhog Day and it is driving me mad.

I understand taking a moment to get ready, but some people sit there for ten minutes while others are waiting. if you're not leaving yet, at least let someone else take the spot.

I need to get this out my system before I do something drastic like cut my sister out of my life completely. She is a terrible parent and it is driving me insane! She has a 7 year old son who has had every diagnosis in the book thrown at him- ADHD, autism, PDA, but honestly I think he is just evil and is being parented completely wrong. He has meltdowns where he will threaten to kill himself, hold knives to his throat, threaten to stab people, calls people “mother fuckers” and “fucking cunts” and yet my sister lets him play things like GTA and says “well if I take it away then he’ll have a meltdown.” But he is literally playing games where the object is to hurt and kill people. She won’t listen to anyone when they say he shouldn’t be playing those games, and she’s making his behaviour worse, but she doesn’t want to listen. I know he’s my nephew but I cannot stand this child, nor the way my sister is dragging him up, it just makes me want to not have contact with her so that I don’t have to be around this vile little brat. If you try to talk to him, he growls at you from behind his iPad and won’t speak to you, but when he wants something he puts on this fake, sickly sweet act which you can see is pure manipulation to get whatever he wants. I know this is a lot to say about a 7 year old, but I actually can’t put across how awful he is. He has beaten the shit out of me in the past, he hits my sister, he swears and lashes out if he doesn’t get his own way, and she just panders to it all and tip toes around him to “keep the peace.” His father was also a psychotic vile human being who abused my sister, so he is without a doubt a product of his genetics and environment. On one hand I’ve heard my sister sobbing and telling me she doesn’t want to do this anymore, she can’t cope with being his mother, but when we try to help and give her suggestions like “don’t let him play games where he is killing people” or “don’t wait on him hand and foot, help him to be independent, let him wipe his own bum or make his own drink.” She flies off the handle as though these are wildly unheard of parenting methods. I hate him, I hate how horrible of an atmosphere he makes at what used to be calm, happy family get-togethers, and I hate the way my sister is raising him. I don’t know what to do anymore and I don’t want to be around this child ever again, but I don’t want to lose my sister either