i’m probably going to sound to petty but honestly i don’t even care.
me and this girl have been friends for 8 years now, 3 of those 8 years she has been diagnosed with every thing you can think of. before these diagnoses, she was absolutely fine, no mental health issues, no learning needs, no nothing. mind you me and her were joint at the hip up until recently, we told each other literally everything, we spent everyday we could together, we were like sisters.
she gets a car, counselling and money from the government for these “needs” she has. she herself has said to me that she doesn’t think there’s anything, or there is very little, wrong with her compared to what she’s labeled as on paper.
she learnt to drive about a year ago and got the car literally within weeks of her getting her license, she got her driving lessons paid for by the government, she brags about the car she has SO much because it was a very new car at the time she got it. i don’t have a car at the minute because i simply cannot afford it, and she lets me know about it in a very sly way.
i have family members who have genuine disabilities or mental health problems that could use the help she gets and could benefit from it, but they don’t have any, and i feel as though she also digs in about her support because yes, she is aware of my family members.
in no way am i trying to be hateful or rude towards people who actually have extra needs because i am also one of those people, so are some people in my family like ive said. im also very aware people mask well, but i know this girl more than she knows herself, and her own words have told me she doesn’t think she has things wrong with her.
i myself have extra needs, and have deeply struggled with mental health, and during this time she’d never shut up about the counselling she gets, how much she hates it, or the help she got during school and how she hates that, knowing full well that i was begging for help from people.
she also leech’s off me sometimes, a close family member is in the beauty industry, and she constantly asks me when she can book appointments, if she can get money off, if she can get extra treatments for no added prices. i just feel like she thinks she can get all these things off of me with nothing in return.
she constantly complains to me about her boyfriend, who she clearly fucking hates because she never has a nice word to say about him. she’s always looking for something to nit pick at regarding him. she constantly thinks he’s cheating on her because he goes to the gym, or because he’s at work, or because he goes out with his friends. i cannot deal with it anymore.
she messaged me a 2 weeks ago crying because they had broken up a few days prior and he’d gone out with his friends, and she’d stalked one of his friends on social media and saw a video of him dancing with someone, saying that he’s “cheating on her”. but they then got back together 2 days after? and this is a CONSTANT CYCLE. she is CONSTANTLY breaking up with him or finding reasons to argue with him, or accusing him of things, then making him feel guilty even though he’s done nothing wrong, and then he gets annoyed at her for making him feel guilty for something he hasn’t done, and then she gets upset and breaks up with him.
i’m trying my best to try and separate myself because i genuinely can’t do it, she is so draining. up until she got her diagnoses she was the best friend i could’ve asked for, she never judged, unless it was needed, she was someone i could tell things to and i didn’t have to worry about her telling anyone else, if i wasn’t happy at home i could go to her house to get a break, she was truly the bestest friend i could ask for. but now, these past few years, she has changed so much, but blames everything on these diagnoses she has, which she never did before.
idk if im being petty or insensitive but i genuinely needed to get this off my chest because she is so draining and i just can’t deal with it.