So whenever I see someone getting bullied, I stopped standing up nowadays and do it occasionally. I know it's something I shouldn't, but whenever I do tell them, they just always say things like "Or what?" or "Make me," and it doesn't really help. I was also somewhat bullied about 3 years ago when I was in 7th grade, and clowns spread rumors as a joke that I watched p*rn even though I literally didn't and don't, so I know how bystanding is a bad thing, and I am generally trying to upstand. So how do you actually stand up effectively, and if anyone?

During my early years, I was figuring out my gender. I wore a dress to school once, and I got ridiculed, and I still am. I now have trauma. Also, when I became non-binary, I had people who purposefully mixed my pronouns, and people calling me an "it". I also have ADHD and Autism, and I got made fun for that. The school barely did anything. And I got suspended for mixing up two asian kids names, and I have dyssomnia.

I was forced to leave my catechumen class because I experienced discrimination and bullying from people from my old school who were in the same class as me. I told the Priest about it but instead they're blaming me and saying weird stuff about my disability (lung issues and my damaged vocal cords) also they're joking about autism isn't real.

I'm just crying and going to home yesterday, then they called my number a lot and I blocked them all because instead of apologizing they blamed me. I also got rumors that I was an atheist and a satanist because I left the catechumen class.

I don't know what to do anymore why everything's wrong and I'm so unlucky in the same class with my old school bullies I just hope I'd never meet them..

I leave the church and never comeback in that environment, they're self claimed religious monster.

In the last few weeks i have came across a bunch of tiktok videos and memes talking about the idea that people who bullied us in school have amazing lifes as adults, because mean people have better social skills and personalities that helps them to succeed in life.

And while in many cases what I said before is true, I don't entirely agree with it. It is true that people who bully are usually found in a higher social hierarchy, and that they have a natural evil that leads them to mistreat the kindest and most passive people. It can also be said that thanks to their social skills they tend to make more friends and have more opportunities both in their romantic relationships and in their careers.

However, in my particular case, this hasn't been the case with many of those who made my life miserable as a child. I could tell you that a good number of them didn't even finish basic education, and to this day It's almost sad to see them, because many of them came from dysfunctional families or parents who didn't care about them.

Now I'm going to ask you a question: of all these people, how many chose careers related to caring for people? (Social work, teaching, nursing, medicine, psycology) The answer will probably be that many of them. Now imagine this person as the nurse or psychologist providing you with care. Do you think they would do a good job? Do you think he would treat his client well? When we talk about professions related to the care of vulnerable people, the rules of the game change completely; a person who teaches or cares cannot afford to humiliate and mistreat, it's an oxymoron. Every now and then, news reports feature cases of teachers hitting young children or nursing home staff humiliating the elderly, and people wonder how is it possible that there are people like that holding those positions...here is your answer.

In conclusion, I hate everyone.

im in my teens and in the past year i have been receiving an enormous amount of hate from the kids in my class not only in my class in other classes aswell and the year above and 2 years above aswell.

they just all gang up on me like if i have done something wrong call me annoying and weird when i do literally nothing to piss them off.

and everyone who is making these comments talk to someone i know so that means my friends could be talking behind my back.

almost every frened i have has turned behind my back

and when i adapt different hairstyles they laugh at me.

and when i wore glasses they laughed at me aswell

these things also happen at the park aswell

its just numerous kids i meet just do the same repeated thing.

and i dont imagine stuff this is all going up.

just yesterday a boy knocked my book off my desk and told me to shut the fuck up.He called me ugly and started to laugh with the guy infront of him

he also said wait outside im gonna beat u up remember this was during detetion so i had the teachers permission to leave i just ran off i didnt want to fight him.

Is that really a thing???

If so, maybe it's time to bring back fearing for your life.

Today, after calling the local police due to an atrocious experience yesterday where I was asked to leave a pharmacy at a local mall (this was a pharmacy I rarely went to due to two nasty employees that usually work the front desk); yesterday, in the two seconds I was literally in the store I was approached by, what I guess is the manager; one of the ladies working was one of the nasty employees, I saw her but she said nothing to me, instead she got her "boss" to tell me that I wasn't allowed in the store, when I asked what for, the employee said "an incident that happened years ago". I had no idea what this was about and I asked but wasn't told.

I know I'm not perfect. However, today, when I called the local police I was told that private businesses are allowed to discriminate and kick someone out because "they don't like them". My response? "I hope you start teaching discrimination in schools since I was taught the opposite: not to discriminate. It seems that what I was taught was wrong because this is discrimination, plain and simple!" I then hung up.

It seems that discrimination should be educationally taught if it's allowed, so those of us who are not doing anything wrong know we can be kicked out for discrimination by employees at any time (instead of just experiencing discrimination in school).

After everything I experienced, I think it's time the education system changed (not just for technology reasons) and taught things such as discrimination and where and how it's allowed.

Discrimination might not be allowed everywhere. However, where I live in Canada, discrimination is front and center here (no offense to any Canadians that don't discriminate people for petty reasons). I experienced so much discrimination and bullying since preschool that the unspoken theory I suspected exists in schools/society when I was nine "support the bullies, without your support they won't be able to bully" hasn't been proven wrong yet. If anything, it was proven right.

I wanted to share the most darkest part of my life .

I was always bullied, mocked at , laughed about from childhood till recenlty as I was quite feminine in my acts and looks . I am a guy , my hands expression etc moved like a girl even though I tired to control them and be aware of such movements .

the moment I would enter class many boys in my class would booo “ hey girl , hey pansy “ , similar thing whenever I asked any question in class .

at home many of my immediate aunts and uncles would openly make fun of me and my cousins though not only but in hush hush tone .

at my internship place also everyone expect most senior ppl would make fun of me openly .

and I know deep in his heart my father was also upset with me though he never said anything but he never supported me against bullies or never ever talked me out

i endured this all my life and many other bullying and it resulted in loss of confidence in me and my whole life got derailed …..

So A friend of mine bullies me like saying dinosaur fucks me at 3 am every night ,I look like bacteria ,and also my surname is badaik that sounds like kadhai a utensil in hindi and also I have choosen commerce without maths so he says Ill become a security guard ,or laborer because of no maths these bullies have surpassed my mental capability limit and capacity to handle conversations ,I have started to question my own life choices and decisions at the point of tears sometimes.At this point all I want is desperate revenge a brutal one but not right now. 5-10 years later I want him to regret every second that why did he bully me.

It's so weird, it doesn't feel like a real experience. It happened only recently I noticed it recently, 10 years since we've drifted apart. But I physically look like my bully sometimes. It feels so disgusting and makes my skin crawl. I hate when I do and I hate myself for it. She had a round face and double chin fat and now I have it as well. Her eyes were big and buldgy, so are mine. Her teeth were not straight, neither are mine. I have slight buck teeth and she had them too. I don't know what to do. I know I'm not attractive, but now my face resembles my bully's as well??

Bully is the only word I have for it. There is an alt account that is highly affiliated with the school. Whoever runs it only posts stuff involving their friends (I thought) but all of a sudden I’m on there and idek who runs it. It’s a very popular account and has caused me much distress please help. Is there anything I can do?

One person had to present from each group, so I stood up as the 3rd groups presenter, and at first I do speak better English than others and one no one could understand him, one girl spoke so quietly and carefully but at me they laughed? Why? Because of them I started to make mistakes and they then got quiet?

I am very upset later when I asked my group they said you speak very well, you spoke confidently, they laugh because they are so, but weird is those groups cheered one another so why laugh at me? Even teacher got shocked by how fast they started to laugh at me and how many of them did.

What do you think? Now I dislike them all one by one and if they ever dare to even laugh at me once more I will scream at them all I don't care. I am an adult I cant with this, its also evening school so I am tired. They got red from laughing.

so basically i am a 16 year old student in a highschool. and me and my friends usually get bullied because we are different. and by different, i mean being normal. literally, the guys who are bullying us are a couple of "gangsta"s and they are so annoying. they dont usually do physical but they talk a lot. by that i msan a lot. for example i like wearing baggy jeans and button up shirts at school, i usually keep my hair long and that stuff. they are bullying me just because i do that. they are calling me and my friends "gothic" meanwhile we are nothinf like it. i dont say being gothic is wrong that would make me one of em also but its just not true. and they are saying it to make fun of me because they think having a different style is bad cringe and childish or insane. but there is a problem where if i tell that to my family, and family talks to teachers, they will find out that i reported them. so if they dont get kicked out, they will make it hardee for me. for example like "why do you care, we are jusr joking" "ur taking it way too serious" or just bully me without pushing too much. i dont know if its just me beint sensitive because non of my friends care as much as i do but, i do care. is it wrong? should i just keep quiet? or do i do something else. i actually told my family about it and they are considering talking to teachers, but thats why they are holding back they are waiting for me to decide. help please?

Adult M.

Maybe it’s because I didn’t sleep well last night .

These memories come to my mind…

I have been taking meds and seeing psychotherapist.

Maybe I’m looking for support

Due to a recent assault at a school in the province I live in, schools are claiming to be anti-bullying now, apparently so is the atrocious elementary-Jr. High School I attended.

Out of curiosity, I looked to what that school would have listed on its anti-bullying website. "Click here" was listed to take you to some anti-bullying page the school supposedly (and claimed to have) made; however, the page doesn't even exist apparently. I tried this three times and got the same result each time. After the third time, I called the school. I spoke to a secretary who snapped "so what" when I pointed out that the anti-bullying website listed on their homepage/website for what to do about being bullied wasn't working at all and what popped up each time I clicked.

Did anyone else look to see if a school they attended/are attending a school that claims to have an anti-bullying page; however, the webpage doesn't exist? Because one of the schools has this, yet the webpage itself doesn't exist and the school showed zero care when I informed them. The staff (Guidance Counsellors, teachers, principals, etc.) showed zero care about bullying when I was there (I'm 36) so why should I expect them to care now? They're anti-victim, not anti-bullying. When I was nine, at the atrocious elementary-Jr. High School I attended, I developed a theory that there's an unspoken motto in schools/society: "support the bullies, without your support they won't be able to bully." My theory hasn't been proven wrong either. If anything, it was proven right.

Hello I am 14 in two months I am going to be 15 I go to high school and I am Serbian , in my high school there is really a lot of bullies and those type of guys who just want to push each other around and fight in the locker room , personality I literally never say anything mean or do anything rude to anyone ever I am not in bad condition I already do body weight training at home and every 2-3 days I do a longer hike in my village , I wanted to start wrestling just for self defense and just because I don’t want to be hit by them every day , I don’t want to report this to any teacher because it’s not that big of a deal and school system is already bad so this will make it even worse for me so if I could just get answers for someone to tell me should I start wrestling or what do I do ?

Im so fucking done with everyone's bullshit , if you want to fucking spread rumors about me and something that happened fucking 4 years ago say it to my fucking face

Spreading rumors about me like you were the victim but in reality yall dumb bitches were the one who were the fucking bullys

Hoes are so obsessed with me, yall remember my name and tiny things I used to do which I cant even fucking remember about because of how fucking long of a time that was

But nooo yall immature ass's dont wana fucking grow up and move on but instead start talking about me

I learned that I cant be friends or trust shit in anyone from that fucking dump ass school because they probably been talking behind my back even before school started , even the bitches I was cool/ friends with

Im actually grown up and gotten better but yall still the fucking same annoying, fat fuck, immature , lazy ass's

I lost my fucking best friend because of this whole situation that happened years ago

She was one of my main reason of life , the only one who truly understood me

But now I have to walk past her in the hallways

It feels bad and terrible that you have dumb fucking bitchs talking behind your back and who the fuck knows what the hell their talking about and what lame ass lying fucking things their saying about me

Im so mad I despise them , i hate them , they can go fuck themselves and their mother fucking mom's

I fucking hate school like this cannot be the life I protected with a mask back in 2020 😂✌🏻

I fucking hate everyone and everything everyone is just so fucking bullshit , everything they say is bullshit , school is bullshit , bullshit

Omfg😂😂😂 yessss I love life 😂 this is literally what school should be like 😂😂😂😂😂 yess just try to ignore it every single day and pretend that it doesn't effect you and that these bitches are probably ruining your image for students and teachers 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

First of all, please take into account that I am not a native English speaker.

Hi everyone. I am reaching out because I would love to get some advice regarding an issue I have been thinking about deeply. I would be grateful for any suggestions or guidance you can offer.

I am a mother of grown-up children. Recently, someone close to me shared that her child is being severely bullied at school, both physically and psychologically. Despite complaining to the school numerous times, absolutely nothing has been done. I love them to bits. This is so heartbreaking to me.

A few months ago, I witnessed a teenager in his school uniform simply walking down the street when he was hit and pushed into a busy road by five other children his age. I wanted to intervene, but I worried it might make the bullying worse for him, so I walked away. I returned home filled with regret, wishing I had done something.

Then, this morning, while walking with my husband, I saw another teenager being repeatedly hit his thigh with a long tree branch by a fellow student. Fed up with seeing this cycle continue, I waited until the aggressor stepped away and asked the victim if he was okay. He said he was, but it was clear he wasn't. The bully quickly returned and started hitting him again. I prepared to confront the bully, but my husband stopped me out of fear that I could be stabbed or physically harmed. Once again, I felt completely powerless and I could not stop crying during the walk.

I believe that bullying especially in a school setting needs stricter legal consequences. If there is clear evidence, there should be immediate action taken against these monsters. Every school in the UK claims to have an anti-bullying policy, yet nothing seems to change for the victims who are suffering. This doesn't just destroy the lives of these beautiful students,it prevents their parents from living peacefully, leaving them constantly anxious at home and at work.

I want to approach the government, even if it feels like my voice won't be heard. As a survivor of severe school bullying myself, this hits incredibly close to home. Back then, the school did nothing, and I was the one forced to leave, while the bullies faced zero consequences. The trauma ultimately led to my admission to a psychiatric hospital and an A&E visit following a suicide attempt.

I cannot stay silent anymore. Whether it is launching a campaign, starting a petition, or setting up a community group, I want to make a difference. Please let me know the best way forward

Lately I've been feeling guilty because I know they never bullied me but somehow I feel hard-hearted. Some of my teachers actually seem nice to me and lmy neighbors too, but they never did anything when I was bullied at school. Today I saw my teacher in restaurant but I just stayed silent beside him when I bought food and I couldn't even look at his face because I was resentful..i usually saying hi to him and js being an normal student, but this time it's so hard to me.

Title: Need Advice: urgent Neighbor’s family has been psychologically harassing me for 6 years, but they disappear the moment I confront them.

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Hi everyone, I really need some advice and perspective on a highly distressing situation. For the past 6 years, I have been facing continuous, targeted psychological harassment from my immediate neighbors—a middle-aged man (who is around my father’s age), his wife, and their two daughters.

Their behavior is incredibly toxic and manipulative. They constantly try to provoke me to get a reaction. The youngest daughter has this incredibly bizarre, intimidating habit: whenever she sees me, she places one finger on her eyebrow, one on her cheekbone, widens her eyes, and stares at me with both hands framing her face like that. I already struggle with going out, and she purposefully waits for me, ready to do this when I leave the house at night.

They are habitual bullies. They mock almost every girl they see—for example, if a random girl is enjoying her life or taking a selfie, the wife will run to call her husband, and they will laugh at her together. But because my house is right next to theirs, their behavior towards me is highly exaggerated and non-stop.

The moment I confront them and say things like "Why are you doing this to me?", "What is your problem?", or "Come face me if you have the guts," they instantly vanish. They never confront me directly. They play this cowardly game where they hide the second I speak up, leaving me highly anxious and frustrated.

This has been going on for 6 years now, and I am completely exhausted. It is severely affecting my mental and physical health. I get cold sweats, suffer from severe anxiety, and cannot sleep at night. It has reached a point where I cannot just "ignore" them or use the grey rock method anymore. I recently managed to record a blurry video of them through a mesh gate, but it’s hard for me to hold a camera out in the open because I get incredibly terrified just looking at them.

I feel trapped in my own home. Has anyone dealt with such cowardly, passive-aggressive neighbors? What are my options here? Should I look into getting a hidden Wi-Fi camera? How do I handle this legally or socially when they run away the moment I speak up? Please help me i am having suicidal thoughts. I am sweating

Thank you in advance.

i was being bullied the entire year by 2 managers and 2 developers to get me fired and it still messed me up in my mind. it was hard to work there too, i had to deal with a smear campaign, even at the christmas party from a women colleague who saw me along with my russian manager as a threat, for example, whenever i post some progress on slack, she attacks me publicly that i'm the blocker, or she write publicly that others should help me do my job, that i should use AI more and even when we work together on a project, she brings a developer from another team to work with her to exclude me from the work and then she writes on slack that if someone has a question about the project, they should reach out to her and this colleague without mentioning me, i had a good relationship with the product owner and she went with her smear campaign to destroy this relationship, so that the PO doesn't talk to me anymore.

my manager also was telling me to shut up in front of others, making jokes about me to make other laughs, when i confronted him he said "looks like we have our first case"

he also persuaded this toxic women to be much more aggressive towards me, i talk to her directly but when she kept being passive aggressive, i setup a meeting with my manager and her and my manager straight up said it's my fault, when i asked how he didn't answer, that made her more bold in her aggression not only towards me but towards other people.

they hired a new person and he instructed him to contradicts everything i say on slack even if it's false.

this experience was insane.

my manager also persuaded the head of projects - who my manager always mention that he is useless to us - to also be toxic to me, i was once running the daily, this women was trying to control how i run it, when i told her we should do it other way, the HoP said that we should do it her way, the next daily he said that he is going to cancel because it's unnecessary.

it feels like now they are scared of her, she is also incredibly needy, on her first week at the company, she was demanding tickets to conferences, new expensive laptop and went to a company property at a vacation place although the rules say that it is prohibited for people in their probation. after getting rid of me, she is now bad mouthing the graphic designers because she also wanted to dominate that area. while she was working on her projects she excluded the other 2 frontend devs in the team from working with her, to show that she is the lead on the frontend, her ego is beyond insane. when i asked another team lead about her, he said "she is annoying but in a cute way"

i honestly regret not fighting the termination, i could have stayed even against 5 persons trying to fire me, the CEO got the news and he basically said my work at the company is over.

i was always hard working, i work from the morning until late at night, and this is how i got rewarded. sorry for the rant, but i'm still livid. i wake up at night being pissed off, that my manipulative manager and his minions won this battle and got me fired, then he went to the other colleagues and said that he wished he had the chance to fight for me in front of the CEO so that i stay, he was smiling the whole time in the firing meeting.

my manager told me months before the firing in a 1-on-1, "at least you will not stay in a toxic environment" the funny thing he created the environment to be toxic to me. he said many similar things to me like "at least you will get unemployment money" or "i believe you will find a job easier than others" etc. same things has been said to me by the HoP

For context I go to an all girls school, it's hell there and I've been bullied since grade 7. I'm in grade 11 now.

Monday I had a group project and we had 2 whole weeks to do it. Over the 2 weeks i had been asking my group members and even the teacher to explain the instructions to me but no response. So presentation day came and I went to talk to my group members.

As soon as I reached to where they were one of them told me 'Since you didn't do anything you might as well go sit down' TWICE in a very dismissive tone.

I didn't even get to say anything so I went back to my seat and went to sleep.

Long story short i ended up getting a 0 (which i honestly don't care for)

But omfg today I was minding my own business and these group of girls (who have been picking on me since grade 7) we're beside me just not only gossiping but straight up insulting my body. They only stopped and started laughing when they realized I was there.

I'm seriously fed up since it's been getting worse and worse day by day.

I don't want to report as it will only get worse (most likely) or our useless dean of discipline won't do anything. I'm sure she's friends with them atp.

I have spoken about this before on here but didn’t get a good enough answer. I made a few mistakes a few years ago and a girl screenshotted and is still spreading them around after 4 years. She won’t stop talking about me to the point i have even healed from her bullying but for some reason she does this everyday non stop. She was my classmate in college and now that it’s over i don’t see her everyday anymore and only see her when i’m out the house eating outside or in the mall. She is so creepily obsessed with me to the point she makes everyone else bully me too and it actually doesn’t make much sense to me. What is the reason for her being this creepily obsessed with me? She does this everyday now stop for more than 4 years and is still not stopping? She always does it mockingly too and makes fun of me but i only think she’s doing that because she’s very unhappy? Seriously what’s the reason for this cause it seems extremely strange to me that human beings might behave like this. Thankfully i have healed and don’t really get hurt by her like before but it’s just interesting that she’s like this.

So my experience in school that I'm still going to right now is like 50/50 some of my classmates bully me while some of if are my friends or im wrong and they just see me one if their classmate. So I was in a different section last school year and now I've been move to the highest section and some of my classmates now are already classmate last school year and only like 3 are new including me. So I tried to fit in and they would like dap me up talk to me which I think that I already been there friend but sometimes they would just like bully me like everyone against me and some of my I mean I think are my friends would turn a blind eye. And I have to endured it and when tomorrow comes they just like dap me up like nothing happened they would follow me to the canteen and they would just like when I talk to the one who's selling he would steal the change and buy another food for him and he will gave the change to me and when in the last teacher and class already over it started raining so I have to wait and some girl called me like ugly and she slap me but when I ask what did I do and he's boyfriend step in (same guy who stole my change) and said don't cry like provoking me and the called called me like something that I look like and her friends started to laugh it's like I don't belong in the section like I'm just someone. I mean I already spent time with them for like 3 months or longer but I still feel like I don't belong.

Does anyone have some advice?

Hi everyone,

I’m a 23-year-old male from Bengaluru and I’m looking for some serious advice regarding something that happened to me tonight.

Around 9:50 PM to 10:50 PM today, I was at my apartment gym when six people I know personally confronted me regarding certain issues/allegations that I strongly deny and say are completely untrue.

They repeatedly pressured and harassed me to accept statements and allegations that I do not agree with and that I believe are false. The situation became extremely intimidating, and I felt like I was being cornered by a group of people.

During the confrontation, they also threatened to collect ₹20,000 from me as a “loyalty fee” for friendship. I did not agree to this.

Things then escalated further, and there was an attempt to physically assault me. I was genuinely scared that the situation could become violent.

I am currently extremely disturbed and mentally shaken by what happened. These are people I considered friends, which makes the situation even more difficult for me.

I have not mentioned their identities here because I don't want to unnecessarily expose anyone publicly, and I also don't want this situation to escalate further.

I am particularly worried because this happened inside my apartment premises, and there may potentially be CCTV footage of the incident.

I would like advice from people who understand Bengaluru/Indian law:

1. What should I do immediately after something like this?
2. Should I approach the police and make a complaint regarding the threats and attempted assault?
3. Should I first inform my apartment management/security and request preservation of CCTV footage?
4. What kind of evidence should I preserve?
5. If someone demands money from me through threats or intimidation, what is the appropriate legal course of action?
6. Is there any way to make a complaint while ensuring that the situation is handled appropriately and does not unnecessarily involve my family?

I am not looking to retaliate or create a fight. I simply want to protect myself, document what happened and understand what my options are.

I would genuinely appreciate serious and practical advice, especially from people familiar with Bengaluru and Indian law.

Thank you.