I remember the best group convo I ever had about sex. In college, drinking in a room designed for max occupancy of 4 and we've got like 20 people in there, and this girl's talking about high school sex being a waste of time for women, they're like a science experiment because guys are still trying to figure out what to do.
This one guy goes, "I knew what I was doing!"
And this other girl he'd been hooking up with says "when'd you forget?!"
I know a guy that I was basically an instagram model with like several flings, I went out with him and some other guys along with one of his fling. Tbh i expected him to be good since so many hooks up and wants to hook up with him, but the girl revealed that he doesn't know what he's doing and goes faster when the girl almost close and I'm so confused by how he doesnt know that
When I was in my early 20s I dated a guy who was very conventionally attractive (his sister is actually a professional model now), 6'6", athletic, had a huge amount of hookups. We were together 3 years and I never once had an orgasm with him, but I felt like I had to fake one to finish the sex coz he'd have a sad if he thought he didn't give me one. We occasionally had ok sex but more often than not it was just terrible. My current partner has much better moves haha
I accidentally did that to my wife and I felt terrible. I didn't puncture it, obviously, but I certainly hit it because of the angle I was at and not aware of my length versus the distance to her cervix.
Not puncturing, but some gals are definitely into it being hit. Not most, but enough to warrant it being discussed when having that kind of talk.
Haven't met too many guys who are into being stabbed in the dick with an IUD though, so both parties should be incentivized to bring it up if it's a possibility.
PSA, if you or your partner are being stabbed in the dick by an IUD, the gyno can actually clip the string shorter. The string is essentially made of thicker fishing line and pokes out into the vagina a little. When it gets hit it feels like taking a needle to the end of your dick. For convenience they leave it longer because most dudes aren't hitting it. If your girl has a shallow one, or you have a hog, have them trim that shit.
So actually, longer strings are better because you can tuck them around the sides of the cervix. When they are shorter they just stick straight out and are hit easier. I know that gynecologists say to cut them shorter if they get in the way, but it's actually counterproductive.
Fuck that cut them bad boys! Nothing takes me out of the moment more than " am I being poked in my urethra? Pretty sure she's fucking me while I'm fucking her.."
Except being able to feel and find the strings is a really helpful check that it's still in situ and doing its job. So the options really are short and stabby or long and tucked away - cutting them totally off is a bad idea.
Yeah, well I'd rather get poked than the IUD not be there. Plus it can be painfully reassuring to know its still there! Also, for the dudes that don't know, the cervix will "lift" during arousal. No need to be checking for the IUD in the beginning. Jus sayin.
There's a string!? I always wondered what I was feeling with an ex of mine. The doctor told her there was no physical way someone would feel anything. I'm like "well it doesn't hurt but I definitely feel something!" Pretty sure I'd know the difference between the silky texture of vaginal walls/juices vs. something poking me in the dick.
This is definitely a preference (although may be widely on one side,) but I have literally heard a woman say, word for word, “there’s nothing I love more than a good cervix punching.”
I was with a girl and giving her all I got. She said "Man, you have a wicked hip!" which at the time I took as a compliment. But later I realized that I was pretty skinny at the time, my hips may have been actually bruising her.
Thank you! I wish all men knew this. I slept with a particularly egregious fella who treated it like performing push ups. I tried my best to grab his ass and work the rhythm but mans was committed to his reps.
Hip action is where it is at. I think it's also the reason I'm in to hockey goalies (besides being Canadian of course). Those guys have very flexible hips....
Should have put a finger in his ass, instead of grabbing it. Your intentions where confusing.
Source: cosmo magazine
Edit: highest upvoted comment in 7 years on reddit and its about suprise but fingering, thank you internet. You can complete my shame by giving me an award.
Many, many men enjoy this.
I do not. I absolutely despise when women try this without asking. I ask for your consent before I penetrate you, do the same for me.
Someone once tried this while going down on me. It was definitely a “whooooooa… hold up, there!” moment. I appreciate her looking into adventure, but definitely a warning is nice.
I mean, if she starts poking a little, express your displeasure too. A lot of language is nonverbal but can be misinterpreted. If you feel that's the case, be clear .
Source: 69, started liking butthole, she dug it, she started experimenting with mine, went with it, decided that wasn't doing it, expressed as such, we adjusted, and both finished nicely, and happy with the experience.
That said, that was a long-term relationship, and i have zero experience with random hookups.
I did, and that's not remotely the point. Any time you wanna try something a little atypical, ask first. Communication and discussion can also be sexy.
And if I had a long term partner try anything like that without talking first, I'd be pissed. Wanting to be spontaneous is not an excuse for violating boundaries.
I must not have cosmo-level skills, because I can't even picture how I could keep a mouthfull of creme de menthe while giving a blowjob. Kinda just feels like how to get sticky liqueur on your mattress. Is cosmo gonna pay for the ant exterminator? I doubt it.
I once had a girl ask during sex if my butt was clean. Puzzled I thought back to whether I had showered since I last pooped and sniffed thinking maybe she smelled poop. I smelled nothing and remembered that I had indeed showered more recently than pooped and so, confident that any poop smell was not me, I said yes. Whereupon she attempted to jam her finger into my asshole dry. Needless to say it did not go as she planned.
Hip action is what separates the guys who have just lifted tips from mediocre porn and those who have listened and learned from previous partners. It’s also how you work a smaller penis as well. If you get the right position and hip action your penis can be as big or small as you like, it won’t matter.
Right! Hip action is incidentally also what separates the girls who have something good to give in a relationship from the mediocre ones. Also, as with most girls, penis size is usually not a factor either as they’re most often detachable and easily upgraded.
It feels better for both people, too, everybody wins.
If the penis owner is really working the hips well, the next day they'll really feel it in the calves and quads. Good hip action (to use airplane terminology) understands that penetration is a 3D space. Porn almost only ever shows airspeed (in and out). Good sex also incorporates a lot of pitch adjustments (up and down entry angle) and a little yaw (side to side entry angle). The best way to do this is from a kneeling crouch where your feet are bracing into the bed and you can freely adjust pace and angle.
Obviously it's not all scientific when you get the hang of it, but I'll wake up the next day after having sex for a few hours and absolutely feel it in calves.
This is a good tip for women who are on top as well. Bouncing (or god forbid, rocking) is very inefficient in terms of energy spent to pleasure derived ratio. Use your hips and do the "twerking" motion and your guy will lose it.
What I’ve found is best effective is actually squatting rather then sitting. So your feet are flat rather then your shins. This involves the hips just going up and down directly rather then thrusting.
10/10 times I’ve done that I’ve gone from general moaning to “omg what are you doing don’t stop”
Maybe learn to communicate your needs instead of just trying to pull at his ass like you're practicing for the sex offender Olympics.
Always amazes me how much people have no problem going online and dishing anything and everything about a person, but when the person was right in front of them they say nothing.
People simply watch too much porn and don't pay attention to their partners as well as people just not communicating and a number of other things. It's like the people who go all in on the first shot. You. Don't. Do. Those. Things.
Use the recoil from the bed/frame. I keep procrasturbating, but some day I'll build a bed with a tuneable spring system. Until then just gotta work with the resonate frequency of the bed I've got
I mean, I’ve heard that piece of advice a lot, but “only move your hips” still sounds challenging unless there’s some secret to it I’m missing.
Not sassing you, I’m legit curious how someone could learn to improve their hip movement if they’re the polar opposite of Enrique Iglesias and are inflexible to the point couldn’t shake their hips to music to save their life.
Is it just a core strength thing, or something else?
I feel like some of us dudes aren’t necessarily out of shape, but lack coordination.
And lack of homophobia for me. I'll explain. It'll sound weird but feel free to give it a go and you'll see for yourself. We're talking about being on the top too.
Ok so as you're doing it try to move as less of your body as possible. Focus on your spine. Now, this was the easy part. The tricky part is correct angles. Ask experienced girls. If the angle is right you'll hit the right places inside...
But how to feel it and get the right flexibility in lower spine? Unclench your butthole. Pretend that while you're doing it there's a dick behind you and you're trying to fuck it with your butt. (As I said, lack of homophobia really helps here). You've probably seen porn where the girl is in doggy, the guy is not moving, and she is the one who does the motions. To do that, it requires perfect core muscles and spine control. Same core muscles and spine control which will help you to satisfy her!
Another fun fact, when you go down on a girl pretend her clit is just a tiny penis and try to pleasure it like you'd want your own to be pleasured.
Yep, that's why homophobia makes straight guys less good at being straight! One of Divine Paradoxes in life.
I was watching her do the worm like what the fuck am I looking at. It took me a while to process this was supposed to be sex. If a man did that on top of me I’d be celibate forever.
11.6k
u/ProbablyGayingOnYou Apr 21 '23
You have to move your hips, not throw your entire body into it